“In order to become rich your self-worth has to rise along with your net worth – you must feel you deserve to be rich, you must never cast yourself as a victim, you must stop settling or feeling as if you’re just getting by, and you must make the most of what you have.”
-Suze Orman from The Courage to Be Rich
Ask for more of yourself and you will be comfortable asking for more of your clients, your children, your spouse, your manager, your colleagues. This applies to asking for money as well as asking for support in sharing the responsibilities of running your home or office.
For most of us, this is a difficult equation to balance. There are some people who ask for the world from others but demand little of themselves to grow or communicate. Then there are some people who demand the impossible of themselves but ask for little (if any) help from others. In both cases, the scale is tipped one way or the other and there is no balance. This severe imbalance creates the tension and stress that weighs on feelings of low self-worth. Do not become either of these type people. There is a better way to live that will lead you to increased wealth and success.
Starting today, pay attention to your inner dialogue and to the words you say to other people. If you think of yourself as a victim you will blame your dissatisfaction with your position in life on the boss, the kids, the break-up, the weather. You will use the word “can’t” often. This is the kind of negative self-talk that will keep you in debt and cause your career and life to stagnate. Start to change your words, though, and you will start to change your life.
There is nothing wrong with asking for more! Don’t let your ego convince you that you are selfish or greedy for asking for more in your life. That only serves to keep you small by wracking you with guilt which will surface as anger or depression. Dare to claim your true self worth. You are asking to experience more of this fantastic life just as you were designed to do! Money is part of that and so is responsibility. You cannot ask for more money but live irresponsibly and expect the universe to take care of the rest. Be willing to step up and honestly say you are worth more than what you have, that you deserve more, and that you are strong enough to handle more. Believe in the abundance of the universe!
“People who expect more get more, it’s that simple.” – Suze Orman, The Courage to Be Rich
